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Ambiguous Loss

Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief

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$29.00 • £23.95 • €26.00

ISBN 9780674003811

Publication Date: 10/02/2000

Academic Trade

176 pages

5-1/2 x 8-1/4 inches

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You will find yourself thinking about the issues discussed in this book long after you put it down and perhaps wishing you had extra copies for friends and family members who might benefit from knowing that their sorrows are not unique… This book’s value lies in its giving a name to a force many of us will confront—sadly, more than once—and providing personal stories based on 20 years of interviews and research.—Pamela Gerhardt, The Washington Post

Dr. Boss describes [the] all-too-common phenomenon [of unresolved grief] as resulting from either of two circumstances: when the lost person is still physically present but emotionally absent or when the lost person is physically absent but still emotionally present. In addition to senility, physical presence but psychological absence may result, for example, when a person is suffering from a serious mental disorder like schizophrenia or depression or debilitating neurological damage from an accident or severe stroke, when a person abuses drugs or alcohol, when a child is autistic or when a spouse is a workaholic who is not really ‘there’ even when he or she is at home… Cases of physical absence with continuing psychological presence typically occur when a soldier is missing in action, when a child disappears and is not found, when a former lover or spouse is still very much missed, when a child ‘loses’ a parent to divorce or when people are separated from their loved ones by immigration… Professionals familiar with Dr. Boss’s work emphasised that people suffering from ambiguous loss were not mentally ill, but were just stuck and needed help getting past the barrier or unresolved grief so that they could get on with their lives.Asian Age

Written for a wide readership, the concepts of ambiguous loss take immediate form through the many provocative examples and stories Boss includes… All readers will find stories with which they will relate… Sensitive, grounded and practical, this book should, in my estimation, be required reading for family practitioners.—Ted Bowman, Family Forum

Engagingly written and richly rewarding, this title presents what Boss has learned from many years of treating individuals and families suffering from uncertain or incomplete loss… The obvious depth of the author’s understanding of sufferers of ambiguous loss and the facility with which she communicates that understanding make this a book to be recommended.—R. R. Cornellius, Choice

A compassionate exploration of the effects of ambiguous loss and how those experiencing it handle this most devastating of losses… Boss’s approach is to encourage families to talk together, to reach a consensus about how to mourn that which has been lost and how to celebrate that which remains. Her simple stories of families doing just that contain lessons for all. Insightful, practical, and refreshingly free of psychobabble.Kirkus Reviews

Combining her talents as a compassionate family therapist and a creative researcher, Pauline Boss eloquently shows the many and complex ways that people can cope with the inevitable losses in contemporary family life. A wise book, and certain to become a classic.—Constance R. Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce

A powerful and healing book. Families experiencing ambiguous loss will find strategies for seeing what aspects of their loved ones remain, and for understanding and grieving what they have lost. Pauline Boss offers us both insight and clarity.—Kathy Weingarten, Ph.D, The Family Institute of Cambridge, Harvard Medical School

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